One of the most exciting event for me this year is my Wedding. I am so excited for September, but there is so much work to be done. I am about halfway through, and have learned so much. So I figured I would share my thoughts. Here are some fun types on how to make wedding planning a bit easier.
Remember that it is your day.
Your wedding day is a celebration of your commitment to your spouse. It is the exciting next step in your life together. Yet often friends and relatives get wrapped up in what the wedding should be. It can be disappointing when you and your family don’t agree on aspects of your wedding.Usually I advocate putting your guests first, but not on your wedding day. Your wedding day is about you. It isn’t your families day, or your friends day. It is the day that you are celebrating the commitment to your life partner. Be a gracious host, but do not change your wedding around to please people.It is your wedding day, and you have the right to be a bit selfish.
Take it one step at a time.
Weddings are a giant event in your life, and it’s easy to get overwhelmed planning it. In the beginning, there are so many questions, and you have no idea where to start. Take it one step at a time. Wedding planning is manageable if you take it small chunks. Figure out what is most important, and prioritize it. Once you do this, things will fall into place.
Don’t worry about impressing others people.
When I got engaged I chose the expensive package. I wanted our wedding to be perfect, and thought I needed to spend a ton of money to accomplish that. Everything is gilded and perfect in those wedding magazines,and I thought I needed that. As often happens, life got in the way. There were unexpected purchases, and house repairs. Realization hit me, and I became really sad. Yet as I began to think about it, I began to realize I didn’t really want those things. We want a nice wedding, but we don’t need extravagance. I wanted those things to impress others, not to suffice my own happiness. That realization has helped make wedding planning so much easier. We are spending what we can afford, and it will be a great wedding. Those who love us will have a great time either way.
I cannot stress the importance of doing your research. This helps you find the best fit for your budget and your party. I was originally going to pick a local photographer, even thought it was outside my price range. The deposit was about 1,000 and I couldn’t swing it. So I dug a little deeper, doing some research on photographers. I ended up finding another one for half the price with the same quality. This freed up money for other parts of the wedding. There are so many great resources out there for brides. Facebook is a great start, and check out Weddingwire. Weddingwire has quick view cost tab on the vendor page, a major time saver. Use the age of easy information to your advantage.
Cost vs Quality.
Think frugal, not cheap. You want to find cost effective ways to manage the wedding, but you get what you pay for. A DJ that is only charging 300 dollars, may not be as experienced as one that charged 1,000. My advice, spend the most on what you want to prioritize. There are some things thing that our worth spending that extra few dollars for.
Ask lots of questions.
Question are necessary part of picking venues and vendors for your day. As a quiet person, this has been the hardest part of planning. Yet it is so important. As someone who is meek, I felt like questions were rude.But a good vendor will understand the need for question, and this is a great gauge on professionalism. You need to know how your vendors will handle adversary, refunds and travel. If you do not ask questions you may end up with unwanted surprises.You want to make sure you have the most supportive team the day of your wedding.
Pick your party wisely.
This can get pretty contentious, because it is an honor to be beside a couple side as they say their vows. But again, it’s your day. The day of your wedding will be chaotic, and you will need helpful people by your side. Choose friend and relatives who will help you navigate your wedding successfully. You may need help create your centerpieces, help decorate, give advice, and calm you down. You need a team of helpers and supporters.
Other than this, have fun. Your wedding is a major life event, don’t forget to take time to enjoy it. Remember the reason for all of this. The wedding is part of a celebration of love. Don’t forget that. As of with much of life, it is also about the journey. Happy Wedding planning!
Are you married? Are you planning your nuptials. What advice do you have for other bride. Leave it in the comments.